Pacing and Leading

Thanks to pacing and leading, you can influence the behavior of others by first matching your behavior to them, and then leading them.

WHAT IS PACING AND LEADING? WHY DOES IT MATTER?

  • First — You “match your pace” to the person you want to influence in as many ways as possible. You can do this by mimicking the way the person talks, stands, their appearance, etc. You can also mimic less tangible aspects like the way they act, or their emotional state.
  • Second — Once you’ve set your pace with someone, lead them to whatever decision or behavior you want them to take!

EXAMPLES OF PACING AND LEADING

By paying attention to the behavior of those around you, you can notice ways to “pace” your behavior to theirs.
  • Copywriting / Sales — Show potential customers you have similarities as them (values, interests, etc.). You can also discuss similarities between potential customers and existing customers. Once you’ve “paced” with them, explain why your product/service is a natural next step.
  • Pitching Clients — When trying to bring in a client, start by matching their language (what words do they use frequently?), posture, email style, etc. Once you’ve consciously matched your behavior on a few items, then discuss how you think it’s in their best interests to do XYZ.
  • Guide Behavior — Guess what another person is thinking or feeling. Once you’ve done so, you can lead their actual behavior. For example, meditation instructors do this in guided meditation. They often start by telling you something like “You’re breathing in and out, and your mind is slowing down.” The first part of that is pacing (obviously you’re breathing); the second is leading.
  • Job Applications — How can you create similarities between you and a potential interviewer? Match their posture, talking style, etc. Once you’ve done so, get them to visualize you working there in order to get them to think past the sale.
  • Negotiation — In addition to pacing by matching your counterpart’s physical posture, way of talking, etc., you can also match their argument. For example, “I understand that X is a reasonable stance to take because Y. In fact, that’s a pretty intelligent approach to it. However, there may be more nuance to it, and one could also see the issue as….”

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